Episode 29: Unity in Marriage | Part 3
Jake & Dr. Bob discuss emotional intimacy in this next episode in their series on unity in marriage. Generally, this type of intimacy is more difficult for men, while it's one of the deepest desires of women. Our hosts share stories of how they have grown in emotional intimacy through their own marriages, and provide practical tips on how to develop deeper emotional intimacy in your own relationship.
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Show Notes
Guiding Quote
“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
- Philippians 2:4
Key Points
The foundation for relationships is the spiritual unity we spoke about last week
We can build on the foundation of spiritual unity with growth in emotional intimacy
Emotional intimacy is needed before the sexual intimacy. Emotional intimacy is especially important to our wives
Our emotional wounds can either fit or clash with our spouse. It takes conversation to understand why our spouse acts and reacts the way they do
Practical Application
5 Practical Steps for Conversations to Improve Emotional Intimacy:
When you’re in a conversation with your spouse and something triggers you, ask “When have I felt like this before?”
Pray about the answer and share this with your spouse
When a spouse is sharing why they are triggered, listen
Next, ask clarifying questions with the intention to understand and make no assumptions
Finally, empathize and ask if you’re hearing them correctly
Resources
Be Devoted, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman (book)
The 4 Seasons of a Marriage, Gary Chapman (book)
Men, Women and the Mystery of Love, Dr. Ed Sri (book)
Hold Me Tight, Susan Johnson (book)
