Episode 31: Unity in Marriage (Part 5) - Sexual Intimacy

Written By Jake Khym
 
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Sexual intimacy is the final area covered in this series on unity in marriage, since this form of unity flows from all the others (Spiritual, Emotional, Companionship, Teamwork). In the episode, Jake and Dr. Bob share how sexual desire and self-gift are made to become integrated in marriage through the Holy Spirit, making a way for healing and deep intimacy.

 

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Show Notes


Guiding Quote

“Let my lover come to his garden and eat its fruits of choicest yields.” - Song of Songs 4:

 

Key Points

  • Sexual intimacy is intentionally last in the series since it is only possible when the other four areas of unity act as a strong foundation (Spiritual, Emotional, Companionship, Teamwork) 

  • Our culture reverses the order of intimacy: we begin with sexual intimacy rather than the other four areas of unity. Sadly, our relationships can die when they don’t have a proper foundation.

  • Both men and women struggle with pornography, and there is usually a lot underlying that. Addiction often isn’t the issue, it’s the thing we go to deal with the issue.

  • The combination of holy desire (eros) and self-gift (agape) produces holy sex.

  • The Holy Spirit can bring healing in and through the sexually intimate aspects of marriage.

  • High vulnerability, high care creates a healing, intimate environment. 

  • The Holy Spirit is not an intruder in your bedroom. He’s already there, dwelling in you.

 

Practical Application

  • Learn docility to the Holy Spirit. It will help with sexual intimacy as well as your overall spiritual life.

  • Commit to building the other four areas of intimacy: spiritual, emotional, companionship and teamwork

  • Take a moment to pray with your spouse before love-making. 

  • Look into the Church’s teaching on Natural Family Planning

  • Check out one of the multiple books listed in the resource section of the show notes

 

Resources

 
 
Jake Khym https://liferestoration.ca
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