Episode 32: Healing in Marriage (Part 1) - Conflict and Honor
This week kicks off a new series on “Healing in Marriage.” If you’re struggling in marriage, you are not alone. How can you find healing in difficult situations with your spouse? This episode addresses the presence of conflict in marriage, and how to honor your spouse. Jake and Dr. Bob draw on stories from their marriages as well as experience from their practice in professional counseling to shed light on this reality in relationships.
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Show Notes
Guiding Quote
“Our battle is not against flesh and blood but principalities and powers.” - Ephesians 6:12
Key Points
Most conflicts in marriage are not resolvable; it’s how we relate to one another during conflict that matters most.
Marriage will change you: it’s meant to make you holy.
Your enemy is not your spouse, it’s the evil one.
Showing one another honour is key in conflict. Grace flows through honor and echoes the marriage vows: “I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
The biggest sources of conflict are deep seated, such as differences in lifestyle, temperament and religion.
Differences in our practices of faith can bring about division rather than unity when we don’t respect our spouse’s freedom and the journey they are on with God.
It is important to move beyond gender stereotypes in marriage which do not reflect the realities of many relationships.
Healing can happen in conflict when we pause to look at what’s below the surface.
Practical Application
This week, write down the following and pray through them: what are you thinking about your spouse, feeling about your spouse, and desiring from your spouse right now?
How can you show honour to your spouse instead of trying to change them in an area that may cause tension or conflict?
Pray for unity in your marriage, and for the grace to respect the journey that your spouse is on with God.
Resources
Be Devoted, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book)
Deliverance Prayers: For Use by the Laity, Fr. Chad Riggerger (book)
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman (book)
